LiVinG LiFe on mY oWn RuLes

Everyone of us want to live like this right.... On our own rules... in our own way... and I think that's completely right you should be the owner of your life.. But discussing it with one of my frnd I felt some problmes in it and where can we go wrong in it. I am wrinting what I think abt it... and what I should keep in mind when I am planning to make/ follow my own rules...
First things which creates problem is that we are not just happy by following our own rules.. we want other people to be happy or support us while we are following our rules and atleast accept us with our own rules... This is very important in life because we dont want to live alone in world so we want other to be comfortable with our rules... and we dont want to compromize with our own rules for that... problem starts when other person also has his own rules and thinking and when those things conflict with our thinking .
I think that this problem becomes worse and our relationship with other people ruins when we try to prove that our thinking and our rules are correct and not his or her... If we want others to respect our rules , we first need to understand that he/She might have their own rules and they have complete right to follow them .. We have reasons to think what we think and they also have reason for there thinking.. how can we say that he is wrong and I am right... we just follow things according to our impression of world. When these kind of conflicts comes why dont we live our way and let others live their way... we can talk abt our thinking .. we can suggest what we think but we cant force other to follow our thinking because we are not even sure that we are correct... if our relations are healthy enough we can argue abt our point but if it's not it's better to leave people with their thinking.We need not fight them to prove that they are wrong....
For Ex if your friend dont like something or someone.... whome u appriaciate a lot... we start fighting and arguing with them over it .. Why ? if you have right to like something other also has complete right to dislike someone... why you want to take their independence of thoughts... how are you so sure that the thing/person u r talking abt is really good... it's just his impression on you... and your friend has different impression of the same thing... you can put your point and if it changes other mind and impression.. then fine otherwise let him be happy with what he has... we simply start hating people whose thinking doesn't matches to our thinking... we just decided that he/She is wrong person... instead we just need to understand that he is doing exactly same what you are doing... We need not hate or fight with the people with different thinking.. it's there right .. if you'll respect thier thinking and sometimes try to evaluate why they might be thinking like this... Most of the time they'll also respect your rules...
It's just a reminder to myself because even when I feel this I forgot this important thing many times in life and want others to follow my rules... and I am also writing it in open space so that no one will take it as a lecture given to them and as if I am trying to make them follow me... I just say what I think and what I observed from my life and other's life's experiences...
I think we should follow our rules and thinking and at same time respects other's too.....